My Life IS the Foundation of my Coaching
I am in my 50s now and so far have had an amazing life of experience, learning, and teaching - one that continues to remind me there is so much more to learn. It is hard to boil down everything I have learned, but through it all, there are four things I will always carry with me.
You have the right to fail and the obligation to learn.
Humans are so afraid of failing, and yet, that is the only way we learn. If you never fail, you will never grow. This doesn't mean it is easy, but it does mean that you should go ahead and take a risk. If you fail, learn something and try again. If you succeed - great - take it to the next level.
Ask yourself, "Do you know everything?" I'm going to bet the answer is no. Nobody can know everything, yet we are afraid to ask for help for the things we haven't learned. We think it shows weakness or inferiority. Instead, we should bring our strengths to the table and bind them to what others bring.
There is no weakness in asking for help. After all, life is a group effort.
For you to grow, no one can "Do" for you. You can only learn to do it for yourself.
I have been a certified suicide and crisis responder for almost 4 years and soon reaching 900 volunteer hours. The key element that they teach us is that the way to help someone is not to help. The solutions that will work for you are the ones that you find for yourself. My job is to help you find them.
For more than 20 years, I attempted to master time management. I learned the methods and used the tools and could not get it right. When I embraced the way I think, the neurodiversity of my brain, I got it. Accepting that we need to approach our challenges by embracing our differences makes the world a lot easier to navigate.
We all think differently. Stop trying to work against your nature. Embrace your diversity instead.
Lake Grandby - AN 2019
Positive psychology believes that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, cultivate what is best within themselves, and enhance their experiences of love, work, and play. We do this by learning to use our strengths and individuality to create meaningful and achievable goals.
Strengths-based coaching focuses on our character strengths. There is a common language of 24-strengths that demonstrates what is best about our individual personalities. I ask each of my new clients to complete the 15-minute VIA Survey of Character Strengths. You can link directly to the survey site using the button on this page.
We all possess these character strengths in different degrees, so each person has a truly unique profile. I have included mine for your information (if you wish).
When you have completed the survey, please download the pdf of your results from the VIA site and send it to me in an email so we can use it at your first coaching session.
Kansas Wheat Field - AN 2019